Do you realize that being a mother is the most challenging, but yet the most rewarding job you will ever experience?
You choose to bring a life and or many lives into this world and raise these little humans to the best of your ability. You go through every emotion each day, let alone all the sippy cups and are looking for that ONE clean cup to put your little one at ease. You then are able to go pee and use it as "time to yourself" ,but wait... you have an audience that is about to grace you with their presence. Heaven forbid you should wipe in privacy, they don't care, They just want to make sure you're still there, and aren't going to LEAVE. You feel like a walking bib, a train wreck, a walking zombie, and yet, you only hope your significant other comes home and looks you in the eyes to tell you how much He loves you and how beautiful you are. But once you receive that compliment you look in the mirror, and start crying and call him a liar.
We then scroll through all of the social media feeds and think; "Wow, she looks good and has it all put together. What is wrong with me?" "Oh, I wish I could wear something nice all day." "Oh look, she is out with her friends; Someday I'll do that again...when I'M DEAD!"
Why do we go through all of this? Why do we put ourselves through such misery in feeling sorry for what we HAVE to what we WISH we had?
Isn't this what we wished for? To become a parent?
Didn't we want to experience all the little mini me's running around? Many of us couldn't WAIT until our little child said; "Mommy!"
Why do we compare ourselves to others so much, when all we wanted and hoped for was to be a Mom?
Eleanor Roosevelt said two powerful things;
" We can stop comparing our worst to someone else's best. Comparison is the thief of Joy. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Eleanor is absolutely right. Us women; especially moms, need to STOP comparing our WORST to someone's best. Besides; do you realize how many people are not being honest and showing others their lives through a "filter" ?
I personally struggle with taking Eleanor's words to thought when she said; "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Its so challenging to NOT take peoples words to heart and play them OVER and OVER in your mind. Words are powerful tools. But, our mind is just as powerful. What positive words are we going to replace with?
The perfect way to replace those negative thoughts and words is to say a positive out loud and write it down. Then and only then will your brain play it OVER and OVER AGAIN.
I'm a mother of 4. I clean the house constantly. Many of you already know how much I HATE COOKING and don't even TRY to do something new. I like quick and easy when it comes to meals. I am repeatedly breaking up fights and telling everyone to share. I clean up messes; puke, poop, spills, many times blood, and all of the ENDLESS of toys.
The perks of being a mom are endless.
Your kids want you to comfort them.
They want you to read to them.
We teach them great principles in life.
They want you to play with them.
They love it when they make you laugh.
They want to make you proud.
They come to you for advice.
You teach them how to pray.
When dad is home, they usually come to you first.
Being a Mother has great Joy. Great Purpose. So when people ask you; " What do you do?" and you reply; " I'm just a mom." uhhhh JUST?
Wow, well lets go through the "Just" list of what it took to become a mom.
You grew a child in your stomach for nine months. For others you waited and went through a LONG process to adopt. You gave birth, held your child for the first time and from then on, you gave that individual LIFE!
You gave them; love, food, shelter, safety, clothing, happiness, you were excited for them when they took their first step, you were felt sad when they fell when trying to ride a bike for their first time, you were stressed as heck when they got their drivers license, you were jumping out of your skin when they brought home their date to introduce them to you, you were biting your finger nails when they moved out of the house and went to college, your heart skipped a beat when they told you that they are engaged, and then before you know it....they are in the same spot as you were in yesterday; "Mom; I'm going to have a baby." Crazy how life goes in a circle; right?
So; when someone asks you; "What do you do?" Don't say; I'm JUST a mom. Say with pride; "I am a Mom and I work dang hard to be one."
Do your efforts ever go unnoticed? Maybe? But; you know there is ONE individual that knows all that you have done, and all that you have gone through getting this far; Our Savior, and Lord Jesus Christ. President Russell M. Nelson said; " NO one can duplicate the Love of a Mother."
Though it may be challenging. Though you may see a small light at the end of the tunnel. Your efforts as a Mother are GREAT. And that is all what you need to remember. Your efforts are GREAT!!!