Why do we compare ourselves to others? Why do we judge how we do things or what we do from other people?
Let me give you one word answer to those questions......
If we loved ourselves more, we would and could accomplish great things. We wouldn't judge ourselves from what we are doing to what our neighbor was doing.
I know... I am preaching more to myself, but I hope I can give more awareness to what we are doing to ourselves. I mean; Come on, Stop and smell the flowers and process how the lack of love to yourself not only affects you, but affects other people.
Because of the Lack of Love for ourselves, we don't fully fulfill our dreams, our goals, wants and desires. Loving ourselves isn't a Pride thing, this is a humble and confident trait that God wants each of us to Have.
Our Lack of love for ourselves started sometime in our lifetime.
Maybe while you were growing up you were bullied, maybe you din't get good grades and because of that, you felt like a failure. Maybe you felt like you didn't fit in; whatever painful situation happened in your lifetime, it is YOUR CHOICE to change, it is YOUR CHOICE to find that confidence and strengthen that Love for yourself.
How can you serve, help and teach other people with what you know and what you are good at if you don't fully LOVE and appreciate your own self?
TRUST ME, this isn't going to be an overnight fix where you wake up one morning and say; " Wow, I am amazing and I am going to do great things no matter if the person next to me is doing the similar thing!!" It doesn't happen like that, but what does happen is when we take baby steps.
It is okay to take BABY steps to make something happen.
Start with waking up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror and say; " I am amazing and I have great things to offer!" " I will be a better (mom,chef,cook,baker, photographer, hairdresser, entrepreneur, teacher, etc) !!" " I will make an impact in many people's lives!"
I myself need to work on this GREATLY!!
Do you know what I WANT TO DO??
I want to be a motivational speaker and Travel around the World and someday speak at TIME OUT FOR WOMEN.
I want to write a book.
I want to get better at Sign Language.
I want to leave a legacy in my photography work.
I want to inspire my children to learn from my strengths and weaknesses to become a better future parent.
I want to travel more with my husband.
I want to do better at memorizing scriptures.
BUT..... I can NOT accomplish these things if i just THINK about them. I need to ACT ON THEM. If I want to be a motivational speaker, I need to show up more on Insta Stories. If I want to write a book, I should write more and increase my vocabulary. I think you get the picture.
What do you want to accomplish?
Write down EVERYTHING that you want to do. When you write it down, in time, and with action, you will accomplish them, one by one.
How is this all going to be achieved? By LOVING YOURSELF.
Let's all start today. Because I am just as guilty with judging and comparing myself to to others and what they are doing and what I am not doing.
Don't fall into the quick sand. Everyone has a purpose, everyone will make a positive difference, but remember to LOVE yourself in order to achieve it.